Why Don't I Pray?

One of the most common questions that I’ve been asked via dm’s and email is Do you have any tips on how I can get myself to start praying or pray more regularly?

Whilst the assumption is that all Muslims pray (perform the Solat), the reality is…well the above. I should know, I used to struggle with it myself. But I love that you guys reached out to me and asked me this. I love real questions. And, I know how hard it is to come out with something like this because solat is something that we can easily hide from others, unlike our head scarves. But you chose not to hide it. You want to do something about it. That's cool.

For those who don’t have this struggle, I know you might be thinking, how can you call yourself a believer if you don’t pray? Well, you can actually. You can believe that there is only One true God and Prophet Muhammad is God’s Messenger, yet not be moved to do this thing we’re all expected to do.

I’ve been stuck on how I would answer this question because it’s not so simple. As much as I want to offer a simplistic answer with ‘tips’ in hopes that it will motivate you to pray, I simply couldn’t get to an answer that I myself am satisfied with. I knew this wasn’t something that was black and white. In fact, I thought about it for a really long time now and realized that the answer to this leads to much deeper questions, which I hope will ultimately allow you to understand yourself, why it is, that you can’t get yourself to meet and speak with your Creator, in a span of twenty hours, five times a day.

So for the past few months, I turned to someone close to me and others who I know (struggle with solat) and spoke to them about this. The initial answers I got were pretty standard across the floor. Until I kept probing them. That's when the real truth came out. That's when their answers took them by surprise.

I'm too lazy sometimes.

I'm always busy during that time.

At home I'm okay, but when I'm at work I just don't make time.

Don't you think it's a bit of a nuisance? Cause I'll have to wash of my make up then take my scarf off then put make up on again. Those things take time. I'm so busy with work. Who has that kind of time you know.

Why don't other religions have rules like these?

I guess I don't make it a priority.

It's hard to prioritize something you can't see or feel.

Don't you think it's weird and sorta wrong that there's someone/something you can't even see, telling you to do things?

I think it's quite mean that if I don't do it I'll be put in hell.

I don't think I'm that bad of a person. I do other good things.

I don't feel any connection between me and God.

I don't think I love Him.

Not sure if I even believe in all of this. I mean I know He's real. Just don't feel the realness cause I can't see him.

Our truth is scary sometimes, but, in my experience, the truth will always eventually lead to goodness, even if it started with the not so nice truth.

I want you to take your time and think about it. Give yourself the truth truth. Not the diluted one. Don't be scared to dig deeper, because before we figure out together the 'how', let's figure out the 'why' first. So here goes, Why don't I pray?

If you do pray, ask yourself too, Why Do I pray? It's nice to refresh our memory from time to time as to why we do things.

I'll speak to you guys soon inshaAllah in the Part 2 of this. :)