Companionship

Well Hello there gorgeous! That's my mother, mashaAllah looking as good as ever at sixty years on her wedding day, wearing Love To Dress (but of course). I have been wanting to blog about this for the longest time, but haven't gotten around to it. But today is the day I don't procrastinate and just get down to it.

Words can't describe how happy my sisters and I are for our mum. For her to have met such a kind hearted twenty-five-year-old man. I’m kidding, he's sixty too! lol (not that there is anything wrong with marrying someone younger, as did Khadijah with our Prophet, peace and blessings be upon them)

So my father passed away ten years ago from colon cancer. And ever since that day, mum and I have been besties. Living and working together. Besties always want the best for each other. And so ever since that day, I had always secretly hoped for her to be married again. Okay, but perhaps not as much as she has been hoping for me to be married, lol.

To be honest, I knew this day would come. She didn’t though. My mum is always way too shy to even think about it and would always sell herself too short to think anyone would fall for her, especially at her age. But I know she’s too special of a human being for someone not to want to spend their life with her. I’d like to take this opportunity to say that sometimes, daughters know best too, not just mothers, hehee.

My mother is so shy that she kept the secret of a man proposing to her for almost a year! Arghh, I felt so betrayed. Besties tell each other everything right? How could you mum? It wasn’t till I sat her down one evening did I get it out of her. I had noticed her having the looking-into-space kind of face so frequently, I knew something was up. And me being me, didn’t stop asking till she spat it out.

Mum, you better tell me or else I might die on my flight to China tomorrow morning and you’ll regret not telling me.

Okay fine! But promise not to tell your other sisters.

I promise. I promise.

There’s this old man. He is in my accounting alumni Whatsapp group. He asked me to marry him.

Literally, guys when she said that, I almost fell off my chair, and wanted to scream and say, Omg you hot stuff! But I knew she’d feel super shy and awkward so I took a deep breath and just said,

And….

And I didn’t reply his WhatsApp.

-____________- What do you mean you didn’t reply him?! You just left him hanging with two blue ticks.

Yes.

Evil mum… that’s just evil.

I felt sorry for the man already. Sigh, two blue ticks after asking a woman to marry you must hurt. I knew I had to step in.

The conversation went on for very long. And it actually took me some time to convince her to give this guy a shot mainly because of her two concerns; What would people think getting married again at her age? And, getting married again before her daughter did? I told her to forget about what people think and think about what you want. Think about this door that Allah is opening up for you; companionship. Something my sisters and I know she missed out on with my late father. My late father was a very generous and kind man, but he was always too busy for my mum working day and night to provide for us. So we knew my mum had always missed out on having an actual present partner. She raised us pretty much alone, as did many of our mothers. So we really really wanted her to have real companionship with someone.

When she finally agreed to give him a shot. She did what any woman would do. She sent her army of daughters to suss him out. We met with him at a cafe one evening, had a long chat and came back with the seal of approval! It, of course, helped that he ordered a salad instead of a hamburger. A sixty-year-old man who eats salad willingly. Unheard of.

We call this sweet old man, uncle Dad now, hahaa. We figured we’re too old to call someone Dad, but Uncle would’ve been too informal. So naturally, Uncle Dad seemed legit. And guys, he is just the sweetest. One of the most chilled out person I know. He helps my mum grocery shopping, he cooks for her and always waits up for her (even though that means him falling asleep on the couch alone on some nights, lol so cute) on days she gets home late from baking in the cake studio.

Two blue ticks and a year later, they’re happily married! Uncle dad truly brings a lot of ease in my mother’s life now. I see it every day with my own eyes and that puts my sisters and I at so much ease.

I made so much dua for my mum to have an easy life as she comes into their old age. I didn’t know how exactly she’d have that. But now I sleep happy knowing that my prayers were surely answered through her marriage with Uncle Dad.

May Allah swt bless their marriage with lots of laughter and ease and grant them both an abundant of reward for being each others companion in these very special years of their life.

Okay, okay, now it's my turn, lol. InshaAllah when the time is right. :)

Pleating It

If you're like me, always in search of a good cup of coffee in town, then please do yourselves a favour and have a cup here. One Half is a gem. It's uncluttered and filled with an abundance of natural light, which is probably why we overstayed a little to capture this. Thankfully, the people over at One Half were just too kind to let us do our thing as they focus at foaming up a great cuppa just for you.

Love To Dress dress / dUCk scarf / Valentino bag and shoes

There was a time when I once couldn’t imagine wearing long dresses. I was all about the pants. I mean don’t get me wrong, I still love me a good pair of well-cut trousers. But now, I fall hard for dresses too. In fact, the first thing I keep a look out when I step into a store in search for their dresses. And the more I did this, I realized that not many brands offered casual dresses that weren't the typical maxi dress.

So this pleated dress came to life basically due to my frustration of not finding that perfect one that had pleats. The image of pleats had been circulating in my thoughts for awhile, and so it only made sense to make it happen. Though significantly inspired by my desire for it, I hope it’s a dress that speaks to others too.

Dressing has always been about how it makes us feel. And I want you guys to feel amazing about yourselves each and every time you slip it on, and, feel as light as air as you gracefully pleat away. :)

Photos by

Kim L.

Sunshine Bowl

In case you haven't heard of Rubberduck, I feel it is obligatory upon me to share this cafe with you guys because every single dish they've served out of their open kitchen concept, have been 10 out of 10. And hands down they make the most DELICIOUS smoothie bowl. Yas, the one I'm holding up there. It's just so refreshing and filling too might I add. But if you're not into this, I promise you their other options (yes they have eggs too and other carb options) won't disappoint either.

And if you see two gorgeous ladies running around the cafe when you're there, that's Kat and Lin, the ones who founded and run this cute little al fresco joint.

Brunch this weekend there with your hubby, parents, siblings or girlfriends okay! :)

Wrapped Up In Peonies

Love To Dress dress / dUCk scarf / Chloé bag / Zara heels

How timely was it that when I was in Melbourne a few weeks ago Peony season had jus started! Oh how I wish I was able to stay a little longer so I could have more of them around me. If you have been following me, then you’ll know just how much I LOVE them. I wish I had a bunch sitting in front of me right now as I’m feeling under the weather these past few days, and they really do lift my spirits up when I’m unwell.

Actually, Kim and I had planned to visit a Peony farm and go Peony picking (oh what a dream it has been for us to do this together). But guess what happened? The weather was too cold and so the Peony farms there had all postponed their opening dates to the public. I was so eager (okay more like desperate) to visit one I emailed every single one asking if they would make an exception for one tiny girl (me). Each farm replied back with a polite no. Ah, sadness. Such is life.

But it’s all good alhamdulillah, because all the florists were selling them and Kim had brought me to the best one in town. So we bought a huge bunch for the home, and admired them together and even took turns smelling them, lol.

Peonies or any other flowers really do make the perfect accessory to bring warmth to a home, or in this case, made the perfect accessory for the wrap dress I had on that day. It was my last evening there and the cool breezy weather made it all the more lovely to be outside for a bit. (watch the short video of that day here) And speaking of the dress I had on that day, can I just be honest with you guys? This is by far one of the most comfortable dresses I've had on in awhile.

This wrap dress is truly effortless and I simply love the way it flows and feels. It's light and totally unrestrictive for days I don't feel like walking so lady like. Thankfully, it comes in black too. Ah, yes, how can I forget my first love; black (even though it's not present in here). For now, let's just embrace the pastel hues of the pink brick wall, these Peonies and lovely light brown wrap dress.

Photos by

Kim L.